"It's How Guys Do Fancy"
Have you seen this commercial from Carl’s Jr? Every time I see it, it makes me more and more frustrated with society’s expectations for men. Check it out…
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What is this guy telling/showing/portraying to his girlfriend? What sort of respect is he giving her? What amount of priority is he putting on her and their relationship?
What happens in these situations is that society looks at these ads with a sense of humor. Did you laugh the first time you saw this commercial? I did, although I don’t like admitting it. I laughed the second time I saw it, too. As I began to think about it after I saw it again and again, I realized that society is telling men of all ages that it’s okay to skimp, to show your girlfriend/fiancee/wife/daughters that it’s normal and expected to give her less than what she deserves. It’s normal to give her less respect than she deserves. It’s normal to put her on the back burner and prioritize something else higher than her. Society says… “act like this guy, she’ll stay with you and not expect anything better from you because YOU’RE A GUY! That’s what guys do, so you’re par for course.” Instead, society needs to realize that this woman, a beautiful creation of God, deserves to be treated like a queen. She should be the most important thing in this guy’s life, other than his relationship with, and service to, God.
Fellas, if you find yourself in a situation where your girlfriend comes over and is dressed to the nines and is ready for your date –> stand up and greet her. Give her words of praise for looking so beautiful and tell her how wonderful she is. Compliment her on her beauty, her dress, her shoes and her hair. Be ready, before she gets there, dressed well, groomed and ready to take her out (or cook a romantic meal for her at your place). Be her knight in shining armor. Be her man, treat her with dignity and respect. Don’t settle for mediocrity, strive for excellence.
To the Ladies that read this post: if a guy you are dating treats you like this Carl’s Jr guy would, he’s not worthy of your time. Like I told the guys, don’t settle for mediocrity, strive for excellence. You are worth only the best, nothing less.
You are right. I went to youtube to find that commercial and there were more Carl Jr. commercial with that kind of treatment to women. What upsets me the most is that “society” wants women to lower their standards for lazy men.
-This site is pretty fulfilling. Thanks Dave.
Dave, wow that really means a lot. I’m dealing with a friend who needs her guy to pay attention to what you just said. It feels good to know that some guys out there actually believe in that treatment, treating us well. Guys too often fall into the lazy category.
I cannot watch the ad due to my dial-up but wanted to say thank you! As a woman married to one of these kind of guys and who has spent 20 years waiting to be noticed it is good to see someone else, esp. a guy, acknowledges this sort of thing. I am wore out from bending over backwards and had to finally throw in the towel and my hands up in defeat.
One good thing about my situtation. I became so lonely and frustrated I returned to the Catholic church! Praise the Lord!
The sad thing about this ad is that Carl’s Jr. was started by a very devout Catholic man (Carl Karcher) who literary put his money where his mouth is (I believe his son went on to be a Priest). Unfortunately his company was taken over and they basically put this sort of stuff out. Heck, they even had Hugh Hefner as a spokesman at one point.
Peace and Love