No, Ken Doll DOESN’T Make Metrosexual Cool
Maybe you’ve heard this… some people think that Ken (from Toy Story 3) makes being ‘metrosexual’ cool. Ummm… well… no. Being metrosexual isn’t cool. More importantly, being metrosexual isn’t virtuous, so therefore, it’s not manly.
What is metrosexual? From my research, there’s not one widely-agreed-upon definition. Personally, I think Wikipedia actually got it right for once… “Metrosexual… a man who has a strong concern for his appearance or a lifestyle that displays attributes stereotypically associated with homosexual men, although he is not homosexual.” Manicures, pedicures, facials, ridiculous hair treatments, eyebrow plucking, spray-on tanner, gossip magazines/sites… ugh. Short-tempered. Shallow and selfish – “Solid ride. Solid physique. Solid hair. Solid.”
Please note, there is a drastic difference between being a metrosexual and a gentleman. A gentleman is concerned with his appearance, but not overly concerned with it and never in a self-centered or conceited way. A gentleman is prudent in his decisions, temperate in his actions, courageous in all things and seeks justice for all. A gentleman lives an ordered life, not the disordered life of a metrosexual. A gentleman is authentically masculine while a metrosexual is effeminate. A gentleman praises others, while a metrosexual seeks praise as an end, in and of itself. A gentleman always respects a woman and fights to defend her. Sometimes, women are falsely drawn towards metrosexual men, often times because metros are more tender and understanding (all emotional)… see how Barbie feels about Ken initially in the video below. These women typically end up hurt and alone because those characteristics wear off eventually, leaving the woman in pain and alone.
Back to Ken… the dolldude obviously has issues… attachment to worldly possessions, personal appearance and a desire for shallow and empty “swagger”. ”A whole room, just for trying on clothes.” Come on, Ken.
TrueMan up!
Chivalry Doesn't Make an Appearance on V-Day Night
I’m out on the east coast with family. We had no “romantic” plans for today because we’re with family. Our Valentine’s Day included lots of kids, eating, driving from points A to B to C and back to A. Along the way, we stopped outside a nice Italian restaurant (remaining unnamed) to pick up my sister-in-law’s “lost” cell phone from the night before. As we waited for 20 minutes outside this restaurant, I noticed a horrible trend taking place before my eyes. Couple after couple walked up to the restaurant doors, and only on a rare occasion, did the man open the door for his date/girlfriend/spouse. I also saw a number of them get into their vehicles, and only on one occasion did I see the man escort his significant other to their door and help them in. The worst was when the door actually slammed into a girl’s face because she wasn’t watching and because her date simply walked in the door and didn’t extend a hand to hold it open for her. I was appalled. This girl not only had a glass door for an appetizer, she went in and spent the rest of the night out with this loser! He was so self-consumed. I quickly turned around and told my oldest daughter, “If a man ever does that, and walks through a door before you, you turn right around and leave him in your dust.”
I think that women have the right to expect chivalry. I believe that a woman should never settle for less than a genuine gentleman. Don’t find yourself asking a woman to lower her standards so that you can be a slob. If a man can’t do something as simple as holding a door open, then he’ll never be able to do the big things in life. Require the most out of yourself and always live out chivalry, you never know who’s watching you.
Man up!
