Great Opportunity

September 30, 2009 by  
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This video is for a conference that will change your life.  The FOCUS National Conference 2010.  It will take place Dec 30, 2009 through Jan 3, 2010 in Orlando, Florida.  It’s a great opportunity and I highly encourage you to attend.  If you’re a college student and/or young adult, you won’t regret going to this conference.  Check it out at  This year’s conference will be my 8th FOCUS National Conference!

I’m most excited about Thursday, December 31st… this is the day that I’ll be giving two impact session talks for the men in attendance.  You don’t want to miss this.


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Are You Fighting?

September 28, 2009 by  
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Are you fighting?  Are you ready for battle?  Have you been training?  When temptations come your way, are you ready for war?

If you haven’t read through the page (above) titled “Fighting Porn” I urge you to read it and put it into action.  If you’ve read it, re-read it.  Another day gone by without training and a battle mission is another day you will be held in slavery to the grave evils of pornography and masturbation.  These are mortal sins, meaning that they cut off the life of grace from the Father.  These grave evils will ruin your life, and every single relationship you have in the future.  Don’ wait, stand up and fight.

Don’t try to kid yourself.  Stop justifying your actions.  You can achieve freedom from pornography and masturbation – I am a walking testimony to this fact.  Never stop fighting, never let your guard down.  There is a way out, you must actively work towards it and allow God’s grace to fill your heart, your mind, your life.  You can do it!  Go, and do it!

If you need assistance with your plan, or how to figure out your plan, or how to start accountability with your brother(s), or any other assistance, please email me at

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Clarification on Previous Post – "Examples All Around" from Sep 22, 09

September 24, 2009 by  
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I really appreciate the comment from a reader who asked me to clarify why I think the descriptions from the previously-posted Facebook status update (posted originally on September 22, 2009) was so horrible.  Here goes:

As you can see, the Facebooker updated their status with one of those “quizzes” to rate yourself on “What Movie Badass Are You?”  His initial response was “Guns, Girls and Cars… isn’t that the definition of a badass?”  I first want to mention that most guys want to appear “hard” or, in this case, a “badass”.  It’s that thing inside us, a territorial thing, an “I can kick your butt” thing.  There’s a connotation that goes along with that feeling… that in order to really be hard, you must get as many women as possible, you’ve absolutely got to have a sweet ride and the more guns and ammo you have, the harder you must be.  (I could continue on with other categories – how much money you have, what kind of house you live in, what you do for a living, how many employees you have, how many vacations you take, how much power you hold, how many and what kind of scars you have, etc.)  This is an example of “cultural manliness”. 

The idea of cultural manliness is that, as you accumulate more wealth, as you sleep with more women, as you buy more stuff and as your power “ranking” goes up, the more manly you are.  Cultural manliness never takes into account your virtue, your faith, your relationship with God and/or others, how you treat your wife/children/family/friends/strangers/etc.  Cultural manliness is a facade, a lie, a demeaning and empty way of living.  The glamour of being a “culturally manly” man will wear off in time.  How many people will a culturally manly man hurt along the way?

Back to the post… the description (in this case, of James Bond) mentions traits that might be good, if explained more and in the correct context.  However, in the context they are in, these traits (strong, fast, clever, refined, etc.) lead only to one trait, “…and still get laid in the process.”  These traits aren’t listed in order to positively affect the world or in order for you to become the best man you can become, they’re listed in order to lead towards women sleeping with you.  There is a great disparity between these two distinctions. 

Let me make myself clear here… there’s nothing wrong with being attractive, refined and clever.  There’s nothing wrong with women being drawn to you.  The problem here is that the motivation to be those things and to possess those traits is skewed and misguided.  Deep down, inside every man, there’s an urge to be “manly” – to be courageous and daring, attractive and intelligent.  Listen to what God is saying through your urge to be manly, so that you know what He wants from you.  Once you feel the urge and know exactly what God wants you to do with it, you’ll be living a purposeful life for God!

I hope this clarification helps.

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Ask An Expert

September 23, 2009 by  
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This was a question I responded to on today:

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What is the best way to get back in the groove of going to Church?

Asked on September 23, 2009

Throughout High School I attended Church on a regular basis with my parents. In college, I would go out on the weekends and would have a tough time regularly attending Church on Sunday….not an excuse…just reality. Now that I am out of college the same routine persists. I’m a baptized Catholic and consider myself Catholic and I have a deep hunger to grow deeper in the faith and prioritize my life. Aside from the lame excuse of my nightlife I have found it very hard to find people to attend Mass with me and I don’t feel comfortable going alone. Any advice?


Great question!  The motivation to regularly attend Mass, after not attending for a while, MUST come from within you. You state, “I have a deep hunger to grow deeper in faith and prioritize my life.  ” This is wonderful!  No one else can make these decisions for you, so you must come to an understanding of where your motivation “lives,” in order to feed your deep hunger. If your motivation isn’t where you want it, make changes (small or big) to get to where you want to be. I heard it said one time, “Our lives change when our habits change.” These changes don’t come easy and they don’t simply happen because you want them to. It takes action and determination to make these incredibly important changes in your life. You can do it!

I believe that part (a BIG part) of the motivation to attend Mass comes from our understanding of what is happening at Mass. If we understand what Christ did on the cross for us, we’ll better understand what He instituted at the Last Supper and what happens at each and every Mass. We are there to celebrate the Heavenly Banquet, here on earth! Who knew Mass was a big ‘ol party?! (For more on this, I would research “Eucharistic Celebration” in the Catechism of the Catholic Church or speak with your local priest. If you don’t have a Catechism, I highly encourage you to get one and learn how to use it. It will be a wonderful tool for you!)


Answered on September 23, 2009 by Dave DiNuzzo

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Examples Are All Around

September 22, 2009 by  
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There are examples of what not to do all around us.  The idea of cultural manliness (this ideology that the more money, power, sex and stuff I have, the more manly I’ll be) is completely absurd.  This idea is rampant, yet many times, we’re so desensitized to its ugly face, that we hardly even notice it.  I noticed it today…  I snagged this post from Facebook today.  It’s quite simple, and best explained directly from the picture.  Please note, my red circular marks direct your attention to the parts that are most important, and quite honestly, most appalling.

I’m not sure if this guy just wants to fit in or what, but his comment is ridiculous and the words written in the description are horrible too.  See for yourself.

Cultural Manliness Example

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September 15, 2009 by  
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A new site for Young Adult Catholics is up and running.  Check out  I am a featured content provider.  Check out my article, “What is Real Manliness in Today’s Society?”.

More on soon.

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